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Rules for Pastors Who Want to Blog

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This fall made 6 years since I began blogging (wow, time flies!). Whenever I’m at preacher meetings or talk with colleagues one-on-one, I’m often asked, “What should I do if I want to begin blogging?” It’s a good question for pastors to ask. We live in a world where a growing digital influence is needed if we are to remain relevant and effective in ministry (though it’s in no way more important than our physical presence and influence). Frankly I think all pastors or anyone getting into ministry should at least consider the impact a personal blog can have on their ministry. I’ve been fortunate enough to connect with a number of people who have read my blog. Some comment on how a certain post ministered to them in a time of need. Other times I run into readers at conferences and it’s cool to see how the digital world can connect us in new ways. Pastors are in the business of presenting God’s word and blogging gives you a creative way to do just that.

Maybe this Advent season has your creative juices flowing? Maybe starting a blog is on your list of new year’s resolutions for the coming year? Whatever your motivation for starting a blog, below are my 5 working rules for pastors who blog:

1) Write Often

One of the struggles for busy pastors is finding the time and discipline to write. Let me tell you what I tell any pastor who wants to start a blog: If you can’t write at least 1 post every 2-4 weeks, then don’t start a blog. Ideally you want to write 1 post per week, but again, things come up. To build a following for a blog, you need to continually put out new (and original) material. People will not come back to a blog that doesn’t get updated regularly. It’s like a website no one tends – it’s easy to lose interest. Make sure the material you post is mostly original. Don’t be known for reposting interesting or profound stuff you find elsewhere. Your blog should be an extension of you, not a resource center. Besides writing often, try to find other blogs you enjoy and try to read and comment on their blog. I’ve found a great community of pastor bloggers. Find other bloggers you enjoy and read them too. Besides reading some good material and finding common interests, building your blog “street cred” among other similar bloggers will help drive traffic to your page. Some will share links to your material when they enjoy (and you should do the same). Others will link your page to their homepage (you should also do the same for blogs you enjoy). Either way, it’s important to build your blog’s presence with continual new material and through connecting with other bloggers.

2) Practice Finding Your Voice

Just like you work at finding and honing your voice in the pulpit, the same is true with your blog. Be creative. Try creative approaches to writing. Don’t make every post a sermonette. And don’t make every post an academic thesis. I always say 500-1500 words is best for blogging. Anything less is too short and should be a Facebook status or note. Anything longer should be trimmed down (just like in a sermon, you don’t really NEED to say everything you want to say) or it needs to be broken into multiple posts (find a way to do a Part 1 and Part 2). One of the best I know at using multiple voices is Jeremy Smith over at Hacking Christianity. He writes everything from commentary on contemporary issues to church polity for UM nerds to actual techie nerd theology. You can agree or disagree with Jeremy’s content (many do both) but you can’t say the guy doesn’t use multiple formats for reaching people through his blog.

3) Write About Things that Matter to You

If something matters to you, then write about it. Two things happen: 1) You will write with more passion, conviction, and (hopefully) clarity; 2) If it matters to you, odds are it will matter to someone else. Blogging is all about finding a niche. Practicing your voice will also help with this (see above). Don’t try to write just like this big-time blogger or that big-time blogger. Remember many of the Christian bloggers have worked to make their blog the biggest part of their job (or their only one through ad sales). As a working pastor with responsibilities, you probably won’t rise to the level of a Rachel Held Evans, but you can find your niche by writing with passion and an audience will follow your blog.

4) Remember: Church Members WILL Read Your Blog

Unlike many big-time bloggers and writers online, you will have personal interaction with at least some of your readers. And let me tell you from experience, church members read what you write. When I moved churches last June, one of the first thing many new members did before they ever met me was Google me. They found my blog and began reading my writing. That’s scary when it comes to making first impressions. So write things that you’re not afraid to stand by or at least talk about in person. While the digital world offers one sense of security in writing and throwing things on the Internet, pastors don’t enjoy this luxury like other bloggers and online writers. One thing I tell people who read my blog is that it’s been up since my first year of seminary which means I’ve probably changed my mind on some of the things I’ve written. I’ve never taken down a post, but I have revised for a new post upon further reflection. Just know that if you write it and put it online for the whole digital universe to read, odds are some neighbors and church members are probably reading it too.

5) When In Doubt – Do No Harm, Do Some Good

This final rule follows the previous one – when in doubt heed the words of John Wesley. There is a great temptation to write for page hits. In other words, there are many writers who quickly build an online following and enjoy a large online audience because they write about divisive subjects in inflammatory ways. In other words, being a jerk could potentially drive a lot of traffic to your blog. Resist that temptation. As a pastor, your blog is, in the end, an act of ministry. Write every post as though you’ll have to account for it in person with a church member, your DS, bishop, or other supervising official. Odds are, you’ll eventually have to do just that. Be prophetic, but heed the advice of Fred Craddock – “there’s a fine line between being prophetic and being obnoxious.” Speak out on social issues, but try to do so in a pastoral way. Instead of pounding a particular side of a divisive subject by constantly writing against “the other side,” try writing about how we have to love our enemies and those we disagree with even when we don’t want to because Jesus said we had to. Don’t forget the wonderful line from Dr. Will D. Campbell: “We’re all bastards but God loves us anyways.” Write as though that’s actually true. Above all else, try to do no harm and maybe strive to do a little good when you write.

Happy Writing!!!

[Fellow Pastor Bloggers: What are some of your rules for blogging as a pastor?]

Election Day 2014 and Being a Christian

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Well, it’s that time again. Election Day is upon us. It’s time to be bombarded by numerous campaign commercials, too many automated phone calls, and enough negative news commentary to make you begin to question the very meaning of our election process. Candidates want to appeal to our sense of duty and compassion. They spend loads of money to play on our fears and hope to somehow inspire us along the way.

It’s probably a good thing every two years for Christians to ask ourselves: What does it mean to be a disciple of Jesus Christ in an election cycle?

The reason I say it’s a good thing is because if we’re not careful we can begin to believe some very wrong things about our discipleship in an election cycle. For example, if we’re not careful we might begin to believe that our votes in a ballot box count as the important act of discipleship we can offer. We might begin to believe that our being against this issue or that issue, and thus also being against every person who disagrees with us, is what it means to live as a follower of Jesus Christ. We might even begin to believe that the political party we support is the best embodiment of the gospel in our lives. And we would be totally wrong.

There is no partisan political platform or candidate for office who can truly embody the gospel of Jesus Christ – if that were so Jesus might have come as a politician and not as a servant. And the church needs to do a better job of holding one another accountable in love to live as disciples of Jesus the servant, and not as disciples of a political affiliation. Below are some things to remember and some suggestions for how to live as a disciple in the coming days, as Election Day arrives, as the run-offs follow, and as the aftermath of it all is sorted out.

  1. Remember there are Christiannpeople who support both political parties. Don’t assume your party has a monopoly on God’s agenda. The truth is that neither party can faithfully speak for God’s mission in the world.
  2. Take a sabbatical from talk radio and the news if you find it only serves to get you all worked up about politics. Don’t do things that make you mad or get you upset just for the sport of it. That only drives the entertainment industry that is news commentary. God calls us to live graciously and generously, not bitterly.
  3. Pray for our leaders and candidates on both sides of the aisle and ballot. We are called to pray for our leaders (2 Timothy 2:1-4). Maybe you should name your local, state, and national leaders as well as the candidates you’re choosing between in your morning prayer before you head out to vote on Election Day?
  4. Speak up and politely call for an end to negative or heated political discussion in your Sunday school class or small group. Church small groups can notoriously get lost in the weeds of politics while discussing a lesson or sharing prayer concerns. Remember there’s a fine line between sharing prayer concerns and just gossiping. Be the voice in the room that politely reminds everyone you are gathered to learn and experience God, not vent your latest political gripes.
  5. Go vote. Then go serve. Voting is a civic duty and we should appreciate the freedom given to us to participate openly in the election process. But your vote is certainly not the final word on your life as a disciple. Find a way to also serve during the week of Election Day. Participate in a church activity. Give an hour to a local shelter helping those who are poor and hungry. Get out of your comfort zone and be reminded that no matter how this Election Day ends, your life as a disciple of Jesus Christ is still the most central thing to who you are.
  6. Bonus: Stop spreading untruths about candidates and political parties and platforms. Don’t believe everything you read on the Internet. Your version or someone else’s slant on the truth does NOT make it truth. Let the chain of untruth spreading end with you.

I am convinced that if our churches decide to truly live as the disciples we claim to be the news in our communities might just have a story to share besides the results of the election. We could only hope…

Advent Wreath Liturgies (Year B)

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It’s hard to believe that Advent will begin in just about a month. As you scramble to plan worship, I wanted to offer my annual gift – A complete set of Advent Wreath Liturgies for Lectionary Year B (2014). Please feel free to use these, adapt them, make them better, etc. And please do not worry about citing their source. These are offered for use in the church as worship planners and congregations see fit. Enjoy!

Advent 1

Isaiah 64:1-9/Mark 13:24-37

God of Salvation, break into our world with your great power and glory. Break the chains that bind us to sin. Shatter the systems of our world that promote injustice and oppression.

We light the 1st Advent Candle as a sign of our hope that God’s Messiah is coming. May we stay alert for his coming that we might hear with all of creation, the redemption song of our God.

Come, Lord Jesus.

Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Amen.

 

Advent 2

Isaiah 40:1-11/Mark 1:1-8

Comfort, O comfort my people, says your God. A voice cries out: Prepare the way of the Lord…make paths straight. Valleys and mountains shall stand side by side. God’s glory is about to be revealed to all humankind.

We light the 2nd Advent Candle as a sign of peace in a world broken by violence and injustice. God’s Messiah is on his way. Repent…be forgiven of your sins…be washed in the waters of baptism…share in God’s transforming grace.

Come, Lord Jesus.

Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Amen.

 

Advent 3

Isaiah 61:1-4, 8-11/John 1:6-8, 19-28

Listen. Hear the good news: God’s promised Messiah is coming. He brings good news for the poor and oppressed. He will be bind up broken hearts. He will proclaim release to those who are held captive.

We light the 3rd Advent Candle as a sign of joy — a testimony to the Light of God coming into our world that will shatter the darkness and bring healing to all who suffer and mourn.

Come, Lord Jesus.

Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Amen.

 

Advent 4

2 Samuel 7:1-11, 16/Luke 1:26-38

Behold! The Lord your God breathes new life into dead spaces. God’s Messiah is coming into our world as God’s final word — life will triumph over death. Do not be afraid.

We light the 4th Advent Candle as a sign of our hope in God’s redeeming love. The Messiah is coming to establish a kingdom in the shape of that very love. And this kingdom will last for ever and ever.

Come, Lord Jesus.

Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Amen.

 

Christmas Eve/Day

Isaiah (;2-7/Luke 2:1-14 (15-20)

Rejoice! Those who have walked in darkness have seen a great light. Rejoice! God’s light has shined upon all of creation.

We light the Christ Candle as a sign of good news for all people: God’s Messiah has come! Share in the joy of God’s new redemption song for our broken world.

Alleluia! Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Amen. 

Read the Gospel of Mark in a Year (A 52-week reading plan)

 

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One of the emphases of my annual conference in South Georgia is to have people gather to read one of the gospels in a year. Besides the fact that it’s a conference initiative, reading Scripture is also a means of grace. John Wesley taught that the means of grace were works of mercy as well as works of piety (or spiritual disciplines). He describes those disciplines as: “… prayer, whether in secret or with the great congregation; searching the Scriptures; (which implies reading, hearing, and meditating thereon;) and receiving the Lord’s Supper, eating bread and drinking wine in remembrance of Him: And these we believe to be ordained of God, as the ordinary channels of conveying his grace to the souls of men.” And as pastor, one of the crucial tasks of my job is to do what I can to put people into contact with the means of grace that they may grow in their love for God and their neighbors.

Below you will find a 52-week reading plan for the Gospel of Mark. I’ve worked to keep pericopes together so that each week’s reading is a solid story or set of stories that work together. We will be using this plan at Aldersgate UMC here in Savannah and I invite you to take this plan and put it to use in your local church, small group, or circle as you feel led. The readings are short considering you have a full week to do them. So read them slowly and read them often.

52-Week Reading Plan for The Gospel of Mark

  1. Mark 1:1-15
  2. Mark 1:16-31
  3. Mark 1:32-45
  4. Mark 2:1-12
  5. Mark 2:13-22
  6. Mark 2:23-28
  7. Mark 3:1-12
  8. Mark 3:13-19
  9. Mark 3:20-35
  10. Mark 4:1-9
  11. Mark 4:10-20
  12. Mark 4:21-34
  13. Mark 4:35-41
  14. Mark 5:1-20
  15. Mark 5:21-34
  16. Mark 5:35-43
  17. Mark 6:1-13
  18. Mark 6:14-29
  19. Mark 6:30-44
  20. Mark 6:45-56
  21. Mark 7:1-23
  22. Mark 7:24-30
  23. Mark 7:31-37
  24. Mark 8:1-10
  25. Mark 8:11-21
  26. Mark 8:22-38
  27. Mark 9:1-13
  28. Mark 9:14-29
  29. Mark 9:30-37
  30. Mark 9:38-50
  31. Mark 10:1-12
  32. Mark 10:13-31
  33. Mark 10:32-45
  34. Mark 10:46-52
  35. Mark 11: 1-11
  36. Mark 11:12-19
  37. Mark 11:20-33
  38. Mark 12:1-12
  39. Mark 12:13-17
  40. Mark 12:18-34
  41. Mark 12:35-44
  42. Mark 13:1-4
  43. Mark 13:5-27
  44. Mark 13:28-37
  45. Mark 14:1-26
  46. Mark 14:27-52
  47. Mark 14:53-72
  48. Mark 15:1-15
  49. Mark 15:16-41
  50. Mark 15:42-47
  51. Mark 16:1-8
  52. Mark 16:9-20

Moving the Church from “In Here” to “Out There”

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It’s the end of summer. Vacation is over. It’s time to get back to the business of being the church. Odds are you’re holding leadership meetings and addressing various issues in your local church. Odds are worship attendance has felt the summer slump. Odds are you’re behind on your budget and seeing a lot of red in the financial reports. It’s time to rally the troops and make that end-of-the-year push that we all know must happen every September if we’re to continue surviving.

Have you ever wondered if things could be different?

One of the biggest lessons I’m continuing to learn as I grow into my first senior pastor position is that we must do more than just show up on Sundays. The status quo can’t keep churches going. Folks are tired of doing all the work it takes to go through the motions of simply existing as the church. The church, in our decline, is being faced with the reality that people need a compelling reason to join a faith community. It’s no longer the cultural norm. And that might just be the very best news we could hear.

I recently read an article that said reporting average attendance numbers really doesn’t tell the story of congregational health that it once did. The reason for this is that the definition of “active member” has shifted over the last generation or so. It used to be that you were considered active if you attended worship services three or four Sundays a month and rarely missed an opportunity to get inside the doors of the church. Now, if you’re present once a month you’re considered active.

We can mourn this shifting reality. We can pine for the “good old days.” Or we can see this as an opportunity to ask ourselves big questions. We, as local churches, can dare to risk being self-critical and even entertain the notion of changing in light of the changing landscape of church involvement. The problems aren’t always the fault of others or “those people” or the culture – sometimes the problem can be us.

Instead of working so hard to keep up buildings and expecting people to come to us (and then mourning when they don’t), maybe we should think about more ways we can get out of our buildings and go out into our neighborhoods, meeting and engaging others. Instead of watching people age and move out of our neighborhoods and then complaining that the church has lost its relevancy, maybe we should consider ways to change in order to better adapt to a changing neighborhood or community around us. Instead of focusing on ourselves, our needs, our frustrations, our children, our budget woes, and our needs, maybe we should turn our vision outward to discover what God is up to outside of the walls of our buildings. It’s ironic that we sing, “The church is not building…the church is a people,” and yet local congregations disband and close every year when they reach a place where they can no longer financially support a building.

As painful as it is to admit, the future of the church will be less about buildings and more about relationships; less about meeting budgets and more about giving of ourselves in ministry to the world. And on our most faithful days, it will be less about us and more about how we can better fall in love with God and our neighbors.

[This column was originally published in the 9/1/14 edition of The South Georgia Advocate]

In Transition: Learning to Preach Every Sunday

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Probably the biggest question I’ve gotten from people as I’ve transitioned from being an Associate Pastor to a Senior Pastor is how has the transition affected or changed my preaching. You see, I was one of those Associate Pastors who preached 4-5 times a year. Now that I am 9 Sundays into my new role, I’ve effectively preached more Sundays as a Senior Pastor than I did over my last two years as an Associate Pastor. Naturally, people are curious about how this has affected or changed the way I preach — after all, preaching every 7 days and preaching every 90-120 days are two very different beasts.

Below are a couple of things I tried to do while I was still an Associate with the hopes that I would be better prepared for living in the rhythms of preaching every Sunday:

  • Get advice from skilled and seasoned preachers. It’s very important you go out and find BOTH skilled AND seasoned preachers and ask advice. In the days of the Internet, don’t believe any pastor who tells you there’s no time to listen to preaching from other people. Be a student of preaching and find out who some good preachers are nearby. Ask members of other churches and even other denominations. Ask around among your colleagues. But don’t make the mistake of asking just any preacher — just because you preach every Sunday does NOT mean you do it well. You want advice from skilled preachers because they will more than likely have the best preparation and study habits as well. It’s not an accident that they are good preachers. They’ve honed the craft well. Those are the preachers you want to learn good habits from.
  • Read books on preaching but also read books on effective public speaking. I re-read Barbara Brown Taylor’s The Preaching Life and it was just as exquisite as I remembered from the first time I read it. But I also read How to Deliver a TED Talk because there are tons of very effective speakers who come from outside of the preaching world. Preachers would do themselves a favor if more would read about effective communication from authors outside of the preaching discipline.

The hardest lesson I’ve ever learned (and am continuing to learn) is how to find and cultivate MY preaching voice. My preaching professor in seminary was Dr. Tom Long and for the longest time I wished I could preach like Tom. Tom has the sort of voice that could inspire you if he read the menu at Wendy’s. But here’s the thing — I’m not Tom Long. I’m not Adam Hamilton. I’m not Billy Graham. I’m not Andy Stanley. And I’m not any other wonderful preacher you can think of. I’m Ben. It’s taken me a long time to be okay with that. I’m convinced that great preaching comes from a place of authenticity — you will bring your personality, the way you see the world, your sense of humor, and all of who you are to the preaching moment. If we believe what we preach when we say we are made in the very image of God, then there’s nothing to be ashamed of in bringing exactly who we are to our preaching. People will hear us more clearly the more we are clearly being ourselves.

Now onto the good stuff. Below is my basic preaching routine moving from planning sermons, preparing, and then delivering them. Feel free to follow the links provided below and check out the various resources I use on a weekly basis. However as I said before, I’m only 9 official weeks into preaching on a weekly basis. This routine could change at any moment as I continue to grow into a more effective preacher (the goal every preacher should have):

  1. The biggest favor I did myself while I was still an Associate Pastor was that I sat down and planned sermons in detail for six months into my new role as a Senior Pastor. This was helpful for our music director at my new church because I was able to walk in and hand her an aid for planning music through Christmas (a courtesy not enough preachers offer their musicians). But it has also helped as the onslaught of learning a new role has unfolded. I didn’t have to worry about coming up with a sermon title or text — it was already planned. I’ve simply had to keep the discipline of preparing my sermons each week.
  2. I keep a Moleskin notebook on my person most of the day almost every day. In it, I have notes jotted down for sermons weeks out. This way I’m never working week-to-week. I’m always working on this week and on weeks to come. The notebook helps for ideas or illustrations that offer themselves up as I go about my daily living and study.
  3. My new favorite app is Evernote. I keep all of my sermon outlines in this easy to use app. And the beauty of it is I can access the app or the site whether I’m on my smartphone, iPad, or laptop computer. My notes are always there and I never have to email myself back and forth depending on my physical location. My sermon is always with me. The app also has a cool “web clipper” feature that lets you grab articles and other things off the web. While we’re talking about grabbing stuff from the web, Pocket App is also a new favorite. If I read an interesting article or find a great quote, this app serves as a place to deposit and tag it for later use.
  4. Practice. Practice. Practice. I often speak in front of a mirror. This comes from a great tip James Howell (a great preacher I sought advice from) once gave me at a preaching conference. There’s no move I make that I haven’t already seen in a mirror during the week. You need to see yourself preach from the perspective of the person in the pew. I also time my sermon using the outline — once being dependent on the outline and then once on Saturday evening and (at least) once early on Sunday morning not being dependent on it. I’ve found that the more I practice being less dependent on my outline makes the sermon more conversational in tone.

A couple of things have changed in my preaching over these last few weeks. First, I’ve officially made the move from being a manuscript preacher to being an outline preacher to being an outline preacher who leaves the outline behind in order to preach with no notes at all. It’s been an incredibly freeing and exciting transition. Because of this change, I’ve found my preaching has become more focused and shorter in length (two things I hope the congregation enjoys). Truth is I can’t trust myself to remember too many points or too many moves in a sermon. I used to preach 18-25 minutes when I was an Associate Pastor. My sermons are now 12-15 minutes. Secondly, I’ve found that I’m more of an observational preacher. Every preacher has an angle they preach from. Some are teachers. Others are great orators and classical preachers. I’ve found that through the ways I plan and prepare, I sit with a text in different ways depending on when the sermon is coming. This lets me use it as a lens to live my life and see the world around me. So by the time Sunday comes, the text serves as a jumping off point for how we can see God and the world around us (hopefully) in new and exciting and faithful ways.

In other words, my weekly goal is to allow the beauty of the text give me eyes to see and ears to hear the beauty of God in the world around us and then to share it boldly, clearly, and hopefully effectively with others.

In Transition: The Leadership Lesson Not Easily Learned

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Two months ago today I officially transitioned from the role of Associate Pastor at a large, historic, downtown church in Macon, GA to that of Senior Pastor at a small, urban, neighborhood church in Savannah, GA. In some ways it’s hard to believe two months have already gone by. It seems it was only yesterday that I was saying farewell to good friends and a loving church while anxiously awaiting the joys and challenges that awaited me at a new church in a new city. In other ways (for example, the increased number of gray hairs I’m finding when I look in the mirror) it seems like a lifetime has already gone by.

I’ve been blogging under this unofficial series title, “In Transition,” for sometime now. Mainly it’s because I can’t really think of other topics to blog about — everything I’m focusing on has something to do with my transition and ensuring that I start well in a new church. The increased workload of pastoral care, weekly sermon planning, and meeting new people also doesn’t help with allowing for time to blog on issues outside of my day-to-day life in the local church.

I’m struggling to learn leadership lessons daily it seems. So after 8 weeks or so in a new position, I figure it’s time to blog on what I believe to be one of the toughest leadership lessons that pastors will struggle with throughout their career. Namely, how do you lead in such a way that your high moments don’t get you too high and your low moments don’t get you too low? In other words, how do you find emotional balance as a leader?

In his book, Authentic Leadership: Rediscovering the Secrets to Creating Lasting Value, Bill George writes:

“Balanced leaders develop healthier organizations…Their employees make higher levels of commitment to the organization, In the end they achieve better results on the bottom line.” 

Here George is emphasizing the importance of managing your time and making sure you balance your work with your personal life. But I think he also speaks to a deeper emotional and even spiritual problem among leaders, and especially pastors – we have to learn how to balance our emotions so as to not let successes get us too high or setbacks get us too low.

And as a new leader, I find this especially difficult.

Pastors by nature are a people-pleasing bunch. We rise and fall on the affirmation and criticism we receive from others. And it can become easy to let those two things – affirmation and criticism – shape our worth as a leader and as a person. Our egos can drive us as leaders. The worst-kept secret in clergy circles is that we are a people of larger than normal egos. But I suppose this is true among most any leader. However in ministry, we’re led to believe that ego refers only to something bad. The truth is, ego is a very normal thing among leaders so long as that ego is channeled and expressed in healthy ways that benefit others and not the leader themselves.

In his book, Good to Great, Jim Collins writes:

Level 5 leaders channel their ego away from themselves and into the larger goal of building a great company. It’s not that Level 5 leaders have no ego or self-interest. Indeed, they are incredibly ambitious – but their ambition is first and foremost for the institution, not themselves.

But this also means that our value cannot be measured by moments of success or failure. We must find a balance between affirmation and criticism lest we go crazy trying to work ourselves into happiness. Value comes from a place deeper than the expectations and feedback of others. It comes from a deeper place than the successes we enjoy and failures that set us back.

In No Man is An Island, Thomas Merton writes:

Happiness consists in finding out precisely what the ‘one thing necessary’ may be, in our lives, and in gladly relinquishing all the rest. For then, by a divine paradox, we find that everything else is given us together with the one thing we needed.”

I think the same is true for leadership. We cannot spend our entire vocational lives trying to live on the praise of others and avoid being killed by criticism. We must seek the “one thing necessary” and then faithfully live into our role as leaders. Is that “one thing” affirmation or the avoidance of criticism? Or is it something deeper? Are we leaders because we like the feeling of success or the joy of people praising us? Or are we leaders because we are living into a deeper sense of calling — a calling that is hard to put into words and yet, in our most honest moments, serves as a force to acts upon us, shaping us, and giving us the vision we need to be faithful to that calling. Balance inevitably comes when we lead out of a sense of a deep sense of calling and not to please or win people over. And we can find this balance once we discover that our personal value is not found in our status as leaders or the impression others have of us. Our value is found solely in the fact that we are created in God’s image – we are God’s beloved children and nothing can ever change that. 

I am new to this whole leadership thing. And I confess that I care too much about what people think of me. I let success take me too high. And I let setbacks get me down, sometimes for an entire day or two. But I also know I am not alone. God is always with me and nothing can change the fact that I am a beloved child of God. All personal value and meaning is rooted in this reality. I also know that many others struggle with this same issue. This is why I titled this post, “…The Leadership Lesson Not Easily Learned.” It’s a lesson we all struggle with. As one friend who’s now retired from ministry told me, “If you learn how to strike that balance now, you’re doing pretty good. It takes most of us an entire career to learn it.”

And so the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single, stumbling step. But it’s a step taken remembering that I am not the product of what I do or achieve. I am a beloved child of the God who creates and redeems all things — even me.

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